Make Yourself Comfortable


It’s MESSIAH time again, as it is at this time every year. I usually begin listening to Handel’s monumental work in early December, and play it many times before Christmas. It has been part of my life for as long as I can remember, and I have most of it memorized. I never tire ofContinue reading “Make Yourself Comfortable”

The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Speed Bumps


I’ve moved my office from the dining room of my friends’ vacant home to the patio, which backs onto a 9-hole golf course. It’s in a grove of pines and there are song birds here to provide a sweet melody behind the staccato, syncopated rhythm of my keys. The place is too gorgeous and theContinue reading “The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Speed Bumps”

The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Sympathy


“I know how you feel. My dog died when I was eleven.” I just read an excellent book by a man who has lost two wives, and included at the beginning of each chapter is a list of things to say or not to say to someone who is grieving. The opening sentence of thisContinue reading “The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Sympathy”

The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Scripture


We were in the Ottawa General Hospital waiting for the oncologist to arrive for our first scheduled consultation. We were scared. We were about to talk with a man we’d never met about a treatment we’d never experienced for a disease we’d already encountered. We were in this together–cancer is not a private affliction–and weContinue reading “The Essence of Grieving: Embracing Scripture”